Kirk franklin – fame, family, faith

I’m not a huge fan of gospel music per se however I have liked a few of Franklins songs which I could not name. However I believe that as a man who has faith in the spotlight he has touched many people with his music. Much as people of faith touch their family, friends and coworkers and whoever we come across that knows we are of faith.

I believe that in light of the recent recording by his son, we can look to learn from his faith and his miss steps in dealing with his son. We all can relate to having family who you can not deal with reasonably. We all have to put our desires to lash out in anger to death with the old person when we follow Christ and when we are in the spotlight either show His grace or the reason for needing his grace. There is a time for righteous indignation and sinful anger. Satan, and his fallen followers look to test us in pushing us towards the latter. As we can see in celebrity and personal life, we are either glorifying christ or as Paul wrote in Romans 2:24 to the Jews who carried Yahweh’s name ESV For, as it is written, “The name of God is blasphemed among the Gentiles because of you.”

And so we too carry the title of our savior, as christians we show whether christ is worthy of following or bring shame. This all said, judgement toward a brother who does stumble should be not imputed by us as we all stumble and we should not condemn but teach ourselves and our brothers when we see them not showing christs perfection. Raise up our brothers and sisters. Not excuse nor condemn but love.

What do we learn from such things? We learn that we must let go, sometimes we can not strive with or teach others. We can no more save someone we love by holding onto them. The best we can do is speak our peace and walk away. You can not watch someone go down a path you cannot go and continue to love them and as Paul wrote to the corinthians to not associate themselves with those who are not doing right, either you end up partaking with or hating those who need to be right before God. In second corinthians the brother came back and there was to be no shame. However we must accept that we can not save those we love no matter how hard it breaks our hearts or burdens our spirit. Only our Father in heaven knows, and we must always remember every sinner or saint is a brother, sister mother, father, son or daughter. It is our own destructive ways that Jesus came to save us from and we start with ourselves, then if any follows it is by their choice. If we try to subvert this free will then we succumb to hate and hate leads to death but love bares all things, even the pain of letting go.

Right in my own eye

Something that should be noted in the book of judges is that people were with out leadership in the official capacity in their everyday lives. Yes they had judges and leaders but not like kings to really put forth decree and people really did what was right in their own eyes as long as there was no need for the judges to intervene. I feel though that even so people would do what was right in the kings eyes which wasn’t necessarily right before Yahweh. Even so they had the Torah and the priesthood set up to know what was right however interpretation and reading comprehension wasn’t always there. Sin has a way of muddying truth to find loopholes. Then again Yahweh was always seeking true relationship with his people and people substitute relationship with religion and satan loves to stand waiting to give people religious experience to alleviate the nagging feeling of unrepentant sin in our lives. Even so it is a hard thing to measure one’s own relationship with someone else’s relationship.

Judge not… Really when we judge what we see in our own eyes we judge mainly by what we see acceptable for others by our own flawed understanding. Yes we must balance what is scripture and what is self understanding. Thus why we need to be willing at least to remove the plank to teach others because in teaching others we teach ourselves. This is why Paul taught Timothy to be blameless in stewardship and his churches to be blameless within their worship together before the Lord. He also taught that our lifestyle was just as much a reflection of faith. Though we we work, which is separate from our faith toward our father should be diligent to show his glory. If co workers or employers see laziness in a vocally professing christian, they equate our father as lazy. If they see one to be cowardly then they equate cowardice. If they see unfair business, or lying they perceive our father to be those things. If our wives see us unfaithful they see our Lord to be unfaithful which is untrue. But alas all men will have to give account for all that we have done, one can not blame others for your their bad example and ones unwillingness to seek truth itself.

C.s Lewis put it this way and I am paraphrasing, we seek to be saved from one or two things in our lives by Jesus and he seeks to clean us of all things that kill our relationship with the father and others. Myself I see that Yahweh has created us with the intent of relationship with himself and seeing that it is a lonely thing to not be with others as one self he created not only one man but he created an equal in woman perhaps not the same but a perfect opposite equal. Not only so ending there but creating the ability to equal each other out in all aspects of life which is why fellowship with each other is so very important and missed when not partaking.

There is a perfect balance between human beings sorely forsaken between man, woman, brotherhood and sisterhood when we try to isolate ourselves or substitute with impurity and sexuality. Not that sexuality is impure in proper relationship with ones spouse or that man and woman can’t admire each other’s attributes. However sin and satan’s influence on society finds occasion to separate people through promiscuity and jealousy. Separation of one’s self from another based on stature and attire or success. Truth is modesty has little to do with sexuality, as clothing and acceptability; the way we equate sex with attire varies widely by geography. Though God calls us not to sully ourselves in sexual sin, that is covered in other biblical reference in conduct with mind body and soul.

Modesty is not showing one’s self to be above one another when we congregate as family not by natural but spiritual birth. Even so one can not covet what another has gained in this life nor should one lord over the brother or sister who has struggled. There is a balance that we seek in this life and obtain the one thereafter.

While I am saddened by my own social anorexia in this life, I know that it’s been for a purpose. Had I been rewarded in this life with many friends, perhaps it would not have been stored up as a treasure in heaven awaiting me for a reward first with my savior Jesus himself I long to behold, and his father greater than he that has given me life and forsook his own begotten son to be given for sin and death to give me reason for hope; in that he wanted a true friend in me.

I would say in ending, I would say I have been blessed to find a true friend in my wife; with my children I hope to be great friends with them in my lifetime, and I hope they find friends in each other. It is better to have one or two real true friends, then a thousand fake friends. It is better to find true friendship than substitution. I relish the moments I do connect with the many acquaintances I have met over the years. That said we must be honest most people come and go in our lives anyway. It is good to know the difference between friend and mere passerby. Not taking for granted what great fellowship we have while we have it because life is but a vapor, and with hope we can meet together once again thereafter and I hope that by my life and writings that I have led all to our awaited assembly.

Justice before God: abomination of rape and cowardice

What is justice and when will it be dealt to mankind?

Revelation 6:9-11 ESV
When he opened the fifth seal, I saw under the altar the souls of those who had been slain for the word of God and for the witness they had borne. [10] They cried out with a loud voice, “O Sovereign Lord, holy and true, how long before you will judge and avenge our blood on those who dwell on the earth?” [11] Then they were each given a white robe and told to rest a little longer, until the number of their fellow servants and their brothers should be complete, who were to be killed as they themselves had been.

Many people are given to the false preconception that God is only love, only full of forgiveness. Thus adding to the problem is the false notion of forgiveness over justice for anything and everything. Also those who look into religion, rightly so, perceive this blind forgiveness with out consequence to be lunacy. If we search the scriptures, when does God himself step in or push those with good conscience to bring judgement? Or even so when does God allow evil wicked men to meet out justice to other wicked men?

First we look at Sodom and Ghamorra. What was the tipping point? After all Abraham pleaded that the city be saved if ten men remained. (Genesis 18:20-33) Then when the Angels came to see Lot and his family, those within the city sought to gang rape the angels. Lot to his own disservice offered his own daughters to the men of the city yet they sought to further defile that which was good. The point of such is that though God is long suffering, he is just and gives out justice on those who are given into their wicked desires. (Genesis 19:1-29) I would point out that in his actions Lot himself was cowardly and corrupted in his faith by the wickedness around him. You see this in that he was willing to give up his daughters, while in the presence of the angels.

Then in Judges 19:22-30, we come to the reason God allowed civil war between the benjaminites and the rest of Israel. A man with his concubine is traveling when he stops for the night in a mans house then as it reads ,worthless men, come demanding to rape the man, then out of fear he throws his concubine out to be raped all through the night until she dies. Thus he sends pieces of her to the rest of the countries tribes causing them to seek the Lord on starting war when the Benjaminites refused justice. (Judges 20). The tribe of Benjamin was almost destroyed, not because of what the men had done, but because of the refusal of justice. Which in itself is what sin does in the lives of people in general. If left unchecked will consume all that which surrounds and corrupt all that refuse to remove it. Eventually the line of Benjamin was brought back to Israel but at what cost? Refusal of justice is as wicked as committing the crime itself when men of power refuse to act.

Now going back to when Jacobs daughter Dinah was raped (Genesis 34). Jacob did not have the will to defend his daughter, yet when the man who raped her had his father ask for her hand in marriage, it was agreed on by her brothers deceitfully. When all the men (who were all less honorable then the rapist) were all sore from having themselves Circumcised, the brothers came in and killed them all, plundering them to which God used to make all the inhabitants fear them (Genesis 35:5).

In all of these three historical accounts, judgement fell on these cities, towns and tribes at the point of rape (of which is by biblical accounts a abomination before God himself if not specifically said but in his actions against those who commit these crimes). Of this I believe there is a reason that God chooses to judge men when others fail to act. He causes circumstance that causes people to act. While I do believe in love your enemy, as was taught, there is a tipping point when God the father can no longer not act and that is when men of good conscience will not act. Salt is good, but when it has lost its flavor it is to be thrown out. One day we all will be judged for the things we have done and what we have allowed. I believe if we acted on justice with in our lives more then on trying to condemn others for sins that condemn oneself, society could be much better off.

All of this of coarse must be balanced with Christ. In my faith I pray not to be awkwardly ignorant of righteousness and yet I pray to be angry and not sin. That tipping point I’ve struggled with towards seeing the effects of rape on those it has effected and those who fail to act even to the point of covering up.

Matthew 5:48 ESV
You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

Marijuana and Christianity

Morally wrong? is it sinful? Is it a form of sorcery? To some this seems straight foward, to others a grey area. To me there are just as many wrong questions as wrong answers. As with anything people who ask, want to be right before God, or justify themselves to their peers thus justifying themselves in their own minds for doing something others disapprove of. Likewise those who answer swiftly I believe entirely miss the point of what truly is or isn’t a sin to align with there beliefs they may or may not grew up with.

To identify if something is a sin or not a sin biblically; first we must establish that all sin is defined by the ten commandments. You can reason that all things come back to these simple but unobtainable laws given. In the nature of man apart from God, we can try to obey them and miserably fail. Have no other gods? We love ourselves too much to not look to others to justify ourselves thus making gods out of people, things, pleasures that others aspire us to do what we want to do anyway. Only through true surrender to the will of the father by the blood of Christ can the Holy spirit work his the fathers will in you.

I will not digress. The question; is weed a sin? Is it morally unacceptable? The best answers are given questions as to make you the reader better understand. Is alcohol a sin? Not necessarily but when you give into it what comes forth from within? How many commandments are broken in your altered state? Can you hold to your convictions or are you seeking escape from them? Interesting line of thinking we come to. I would argue that in exercising of self control, alcohol is harmless but becomes a destroyer of the best of men yet is widely consumed without the defiling the faith of many who can responsibly consume it.

Another question is it sorcery? Does it alter perception? Does it cause you to do things that otherwise would not be possible? Maybe but would not caffeine fall into this category? Or pain medication? Or chemotherapy? Most of what we call medicine today would better understood to be a potion is in pill or liquid form which would be picked up by most Christians today at a pharmacy, which many a faithful believer of older age has a plethora of pharmaceutical prescriptions that alter the body and mind in good and bad ways to live longer. So I ask where is the thin line which we say, here no further? Interesting. Furthermore while to the person with ADHD caffeine and stimulants such as adderall or even cocaine can cause clarity that another person would only be high. Where is it medicine and when does it become witchcraft? Is it when you consult false gods and demons? Is it when you make it into an idol? Can you glorify your creator in body, mind and spirit?

Not so black and white. But written in red,

Mark 7:18 ESV
And he said to them, “Then are you also without understanding? Do you not see that whatever goes into a person from outside cannot defile him,

So when does weed, alcohol, caffeine, and pharmaceuticals become sin and or sorcery? This is the better question that society has not been asking itself. Its a hard question to ask. When you do it is like a mirror into your own soul and the state of our society. Rebellion, lying, adultery, idolatry, lying, false witness, coveting, and hypocrisy. When do you become a prisoner to it verses partaking in moderation as Jesus himself showed us when he came to earth with a pure spirit and partook in drinking wine?

In closing thoughts, can you have no other gods before Yahweh when you partake? Can you bare his name without hypocrisy? Can you have a sound mind, apart from rebellion? Can you love your neighbor as yourself? Does your freedom defile your weaker brothers faith?

Food for thought

Genesis 2:9 Restoration Study Bible

And out of the ground made Yahweh Elohim to grow every tree that is pleasant to the sight, and good for food; the tree of life also in the midst of the garden, and the tree of knowledge of good and veil.


And Yahweh Elohim commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat:

Genesis 2:17 KJVS
But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.

When God created all living things, he saw that it was good. A question some ask themselves is, is it good to eat meat? (Acts 10) Is our freedom to kill and eat as Peter was told to do, good? Should we continue to end the lives of animals for the support of our own lives? I bring this up as the drummer and guitarist from one of my favorite bands, Tourniquet, are both vegan and have been as a band much outspoken against animal cruelty. Which is a real honest issue in my opinion.

The question that I ask, does it cause sadness to the father in heaven that we eat meat? It certainly does show in creation that we were not meant to eat meat and in punishment we are given hard labor to gain food from the land. However in the Torah God himself does Institute laws for the sacrifice of clean animals for eating. In my mind these things are given to us in fact to show us the very sacrifice that our father in heaven made for man in that he gave us his one and only begotten son to be brutally beaten, deprived of his glory, taken into mockery and mutilation eventually sacrificed so that we may live. So you ask why we no longer sacrifice animals? Because Yeshua the messiah was sacrifice enough for all of our sins. Why was Peter told to kill and eat unclean animals? why did Peter not want to obey? Because something unclean could not be sacrifice for something unclean to become clean and because now we have the real sacrifice for sin. Not merely a picture of coming perfection, but the real sacrifice made we have freedom through relationship to enjoy his salvation for both the Jew first set apart and now the gentile, once believed to be as unclean as swine. The truth being that unfaithful sacrifice for the Jew is as unclean as swine sacrifice and true fellowship from a gentile born again is as much a sweet aroma to our father in heaven.

In close, whether you eat meat, or animal byproducts, or abstain. Whether you eat pork, or abstain. Remember this brothers are to uplift each other removing the plank from within our own eye to better teach each other with whatever faith we have been given. It is not good to tear each other down but to lift each other up for the renewal of our spirit. In the end meat for food will pass away, everything will be given back into purity and that is what we are training for. The end of sin, the day death no longer supports life. All of our tears are wiped away. No longer do we abuse Yahweh’s creation. I work in arboriculture industry and can tell you that plants are as much living as animals and feel as much pain and stress and death for sustaining our sinful desires as much as the animal kingdom. While I do not believe in our condition that it is sinful to eat meat, but I would point out sin alone is responsible for the consumption of animals for food and sin alone is why men are cruel in the keeping of God’s creation which was first given to Adam. This is why I judge neither those for or against eating meat or byproducts but applaud them that have compassion for creation.

Shalom Shabbat.

Agope Love

Perhaps this is by far the hardest commandments Jesus gives (yet it was a spiritual gift to the early church). It is not only good enough to love one another, but we place too much of our own love on converting one another to our own faith, our own moral high ground if you would. In fact I believe most wars fought between catholic and protestants, and division in our country stems from ignoring the core principal, love your neighbor. Not love your brother. It says in this scripture, pray for those who persecute you, but first I would elude to the fact that we can not pray for our neighbors if we do not ask first to be given this gift of love. Or even if we feel the urge to, our flesh wars with our spirit thus the need to ask the spirit to win that battle. Thus the saying you have not because you do not ask. I was told once, fix the hand shake to fix the man. I thought it odd but it lasted with me. We all have fault within ourselves, and we need to fix ourselves (not us doing that work literally, because we lack the capacity). If we would follow this one commandment, I believe the world would be asking what gives you that shine. In the face of what you call a time of sin abounding (in a better context, sin is to the father and follower of christ, offensive or offends our soul as we follow him), your ability to shake hands with anyone who does not profess faith, that is what makes a unbelieving world see and say I want that. Or it doesn’t, and they see your love in the face of it. If there is only love for the brothers, then you no different than the world, and if you are not different than the world then you create occasion for separation from the father. It is good to love that which is good, but we still must love those who don’t do right according to what we know to come from the father, the son and his spirit.

Matthew 5:43-48 ESV
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ [44] But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, [45] so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. [46] For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? [47] And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? [48] You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect..

Shalom shabbat, Restoration Study Bible

It has been a minute since I posted so I thought it would be a perfect time to show of the knew bible I have been gleaning scripture from. Give a little insight to it and offer my personal reasons for picking it up.

RSB with the King James as its source translation, Strong’s concordance and reference to Yahweh’s Restoration Ministry notes.

In short the reason I wanted a bible with out LORD was because while I see no wrong in calling the father Lord I do believe that it has a deeper impact when you read that the father just as the son had a name. Names denote many different things to different people. A friend can call you by a first name, a nick name. In the military the call you by your rank and last name, you call your superior by their appropriate title and rank. When Jesus was on earth he was called Rabbi, teacher, master but he was the first to call us friend. I fully believe whatever name the father and son comes to you, you are his friend if indeed you place salvation in Yeshua the Messiah, or commonly Jesus Christ. There will always be debating over who has the right name. To me it’s better that you know the father by his works and the son by his sacrifice as he knows us by his work through us or our works done apart from him if we don’t know him.

The ability given to man has no bounds of wickedness through disobedience to God by the knowledge of good and evil. For this God saw fit to take away the one language of man and reach out to each person individually in their own language. I say all of this for reference to the discussion of what names are given to us are not important but the friendship that has been extended to us.

I really like this bible, it gives greater insight to those seeking a deeper relationship. I do like the Strong’s in the back and the name Yahweh for the father, and Yahshua for the son. Also in place of God, he is referred to as El, elohim, what ever the original text had for it giving better context.

The only thing I disagree with is the theological foot notes. I do like understanding other churches point of view but we all have to search the scriptures for ourselves. That said as with the commentary in my old kjv they themselves had their own bias. That is why we read for ourselves to show ourselves approved to our father in heaven. As the son has said not to judge one day he will remove the wheat from the chaff and we will be as one again for the glory of his name amen.

Fall of Jericho; redemption, part 1

Joshua chapters 2,5,6,7

Much can be drawn from these chapters, and would encourage anyone to take out your bible to read these chapters before proceedings (though you can read this blog before hand too as it is a good stand alone message for anyone). If you don’t have a bible the Blue letter bible is a great free resource with many different translations for better understanding.

We see that when the children of Israel had sent spies into Jericho, they came to a prostitute named Rahab, and for all purposes Rahab was as some could say the sinner of sinners but what saved her life was not the life she had lived but the faith she had shown. She was condemned by the law of moses as an adulterer, she most likely worshipped false gods. She had heard of the great thing this “yahweh”, elohim (god) of Israel had done through the Hebrew’s and had the same options, the same free will, as any nation God had brought his people against. Instead of a spirit of fear she chose to reach out in faith to a god she had never worshipped, to a people who were not her own and humbled herself before Gods people and saved not only herself but her entire family (who may or may not have held her life choices in high regard). Eventually we see her faith not only rewarded momentarily but in the book of Matthew she was indeed in the bloodline that lead up to another Joshua, who would be known throughout the world as Jesus. Also being named with all of the great people of faith in Hebrew’s 11.

When God uses people he knows them, and he chose her not for her past but for her future. For all of her sins were as great as any other but God knew her before she was born. God had a plan for her, not of destruction but for grace, mercy and a shining example of the kind of woman God loves and uses. Her sins were not what defined her. Her past did not hold to her like a ball and chain. Though she probably still had the memories of her past life before, all of that did not amount to the great rewards she received on earth and notably in heaven. Though she was born a sinner she was reborn that day a daughter of God and as much partook a reward with the children of Israel as a child of Israel.

Now I don’t know what happened to her family afterward but her faith saved them from destruction in Jericho. So when you see family not following Christ you can know without fear that your example of faith can be what saves your family and not have anxiety, because God has preserved us faithful when we ourselves were unfaithful. If your life has not been saved by Jesus blood yet, know that all things can be new again, and the latter days of your life can be greater than the former by your faith in his redemption. If you have sorrow, he can heal it. If you have wronged yourself, your family, your friends, he can forgive it and show you to be redeemed before your peers not as a prostitute (literally and figuratively) not as a worshipper of other gods, money, self or whatever have you but a daughter. This is what being saved means. Not simply a redemption in the afterlife as a life insurance, but immediately in this life. Salvation is the redemption of your life immediately from your past and into eternity.

This is a new year, and though it may be better or worse, this year you can be renewed. This year you can see things around you falling apart, but you too can be preserved yourself and those in your family. You may not have to be tried as Rahab, the redeemed and faithful woman by Gods grace (true hero) , but in 2021 you can lay down your burden, you can reach out to God. You can be redeemed by faith in Jesus and his blood, and be sealed with his name on your life. Today is the day you can find redemption while the walls fall around you.

A Servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ

Leviticus 25:47-49 ESV
“If a stranger or sojourner with you becomes rich, and your brother beside him becomes poor and sells himself to the stranger or sojourner with you or to a member of the stranger’s clan, then after he is sold he may be redeemed. One of his brothers may redeem him, or his uncle or his cousin may redeem him, or a close relative from his clan may redeem him. Or if he grows rich he may redeem himself….

Leviticus 25:53-55 ESV
….He shall treat him as a worker hired year by year. He shall not rule ruthlessly over him in your sight. And if he is not redeemed by these means, then he and his children with him shall be released in the year of jubilee. For it is to me that the people of Israel are servants. They are my servants whom I brought out of the land of Egypt: I am the LORD your God.

In the book of Leviticus we find imagery of servitude or slavery and redemption. The simplicity of the terms of it was that in Israel there was not to be any forced servitude among themselves but if one became destitute that you could in a way contract yourself out to another man who would treat you as a servant in his house with a wage paid toward your contract. However ownership wasn’t given to said master because god had brought them from forced labor and slavery in Egypt. The condition of said servitude was that the master had to treat his servants fairly and there were punishments up to death for those who broke the terms.

For us and what it means to christians is ever present today. For we are born into bondage to sin. We have no choice in the matter. To be born means we serve sin until we are served the wages which is death physically and spiritually. We can be redeemed through Jesus Christ through his sacrifice. Now the hairy part of it is we really have free will to accept or remain in our sin. In truth that is all we have. We can no more choose to not sin than choose to be good when we become Christians. We ourselves can do nothing. This is why we must fall in love with the Holy Spirit. This is why we can not boast in our works this is why this quasi free will we have been given must be surrendered. Indeed all that we have must be from Christ.

John 3:26-30 ESV
And they came to John and said to him, “Rabbi, he who was with you across the Jordan, to whom you bore witness-look, he is baptizing, and all are going to him.” John answered, “A person cannot receive even one thing unless it is given him from heaven. You yourselves bear me witness, that I said, ‘I am not the Christ, but I have been sent before him.’ The one who has the bride is the bridegroom. The friend of the bridegroom, who stands and hears him, rejoices greatly at the bridegroom’s voice. Therefore this joy of mine is now complete. He must increase, but I must decrease.”

John the Baptist knew this indentured servitude all too well. When he came to make way for the messiah, he came in knowledge that one day his ministering would come to an end and his redemption would come. He was but a servant until the end. Much like him we have been called to serve a purpose, to make straight the way of Jesus Christ second coming. To serve within whatever capacity he sees fit but to do so we must decrease so he can increase. How can we do such thing in this flesh? We can not. Our flesh holds onto its free will and uses it to sooth itself with pride. In the same breath that we say, look at what I have done in tour name lord, Jesus will say look at what you have done in my name Jimmy, it is not good. So what can we do? We throw up the white flag of surrender and defeat. This how we become more than conquerors. In failure we are rewarded. John ran his race, lived by denying himself and though he was beheaded for his righteousness that he only had because he received it from God himself, he found paradise.

Free will is both a gift and a curse. A gift to those who surrendered to the will of the father and a curse to those who cling to it. Once you have waived the white flag you can start your life. When we give free will away then we can be filled with the richness of heaven. If we choose to follow Christ and don’t give it away then we become poor and in essence sell ourselves to the sojourner and strangers though we have been taken out of Egypt. In his faithfulness Christ will give you to them until you return to be redeemed. If you never truly gave yourself to him then you will not feel his pull back to him, for the chastens those who he loves.